Your life, your kid, your rules. They cannot insist on anything without your consent. Don’t give your choices and power over to someone else.
just fine
JoinedPosts by just fine
-
21
Family Insists on Having Relationship with My Child -_-
by Cimarrona inhi gang, i'm a single mother of an 8 month old baby boy.
i've been df'd for over six years now.
my parents are super dubs and most of my siblings are dubs (on paper - a couple have been inactive my entire life but still claim to believe) with the exception of a brother who was never baptized.
-
-
-
34
Did You Go To Meetings in Very Inclement Weather?
by minimus inliving in new england means having lots of snow and cold.
elders were very reluctant to cancel or reschedule a meeting due to the weather.
i lived 3 towns away from the kingdom hall and if it was icy and treacherous my vote would always be to cancel the meeting....and forget about rescheduling!.
-
-
just fine
When I was in they never cancelled for bad weather. It was ridiculous to have people out driving in those conditions. My parents always went no matter how bad it was.
-
36
Is it 16?
by Jrjw inhi can anyone tell me if it's true the society says parents must take their child to meetings until they're 16 even if they don't want to?
my ex is being a pain about me not forcing my 12 year old to be a witness.
he doesn't know i'm becoming inactive at moment so i have to be careful how i word things to him.
-
-
just fine
You make the rules. Your family, your kids, your rules.
-
8
Friends
by Jrjw inhi does anyone have any ideas of good places for me to make non jw friends when i move coz need to replace all my jw friends for my kids and i ready for becoming inactive.
-
-
just fine
I joined recreation league sports through the local community center. I never got to play sports in school so it was fun to be on a team. I tried volleyball, basketball, and softball. The team would go out after the games for food and beer and it was fun.
I also volunteered at the animal shelter cleaning kennels and walking dogs.
-
13
Ended my last J-Dub friendship...
by Joliette ini wrote her a text message telling her not to contact me anymore.
found out that she went back and told my mother some stuff about me.. i shouldnt have never given her my phone number....she's my next door neighbor.. she would always ask if i was going back to the kingdom hall, i would tell her no...people know that i'm not going back to the kingdom hall, and they still think that i'm going back.. i'm planning on moving from my hometown in 2 years and i cannot wait to leave!!!!
so tired of people still thinking i'm a j-dub, i've told people i havent been to the kingdom hall since 2011, and they still think i'm going back.
-
-
just fine
I cut all ties because in my experience no matter what they always think you are coming back. Then gossip about you or try to guilt you into returning. Not a true friendship based on love and acceptance.
-
18
little acts of kindness.
by zeb injust had a coffee on way home when two young mums with babys in strollers came in with the usual bags and stuff for the little ones needs.
i recall our days of little ones and the times we rarely went out.. i bought a coffee voucher for each mum and gave them my best wishes.
i delight in doing random acts of kindness.. i wish everyone here as well a safe and happy christmas/ new year time.
-
-
just fine
I get so much joy from random acts of kindness. Just a small way to appreciate everyone. -
35
Do You Feels That Your Life Was Ruined Because of Ypur JW Experience?
by minimus ini know that some are upset because of the time lost because of ever having been a witness.
have you moved on as an ex jw or are you stil devastated because of your past jw lige?.
-
-
just fine
Early in my exit a counselor asked me if the JW experience was what i wanted to define the rest of my life. The answer was no way, I want to put this behind me and move on.... and so I did.
I would not let them have the satisfaction of ruining my life. Have you ever seen the glee when someone who has exited the JWs, life goes to shit? Wasn’t going to let that happen.
In some respect it has made me stronger, I had to leave everything behind, parents, family, friends, everything familiar. I have confidence that I can handle anything that comes my way, having had to grow up without the safety net of family and find my own way.
I am happy, successful, and educated. Take that Watchtower!
-
38
How do I handle this?
by Phoebe ina little advice please.. it's now 7 months since i stopped going to meetings.
we still get regular calls by elders - at least every 2 weeks.
i can handle them.
-
-
just fine
Best advice I was given is to separate my emotions from it and see it for what it is - emotional manipulation at its finest. Once you can see that it’s all BS, it frees you from their reach. When they do things like this - see it for what it is.
Refuse to engage, my husband says that people make the mistake of treating JWs like they are normal people, they are not. They do not think like normal human people, it’s always about manipulation, to get you to come back, to get you to view the elders as relevant to your life etc.
Dont fall for it.
-
38
How do I handle this?
by Phoebe ina little advice please.. it's now 7 months since i stopped going to meetings.
we still get regular calls by elders - at least every 2 weeks.
i can handle them.
-
-
just fine
Throw it away. They are using a child to emotionally engage you. It is a manipulation.
-
17
Are You Spending More Money This Year With The Economy Being Better?
by minimus ini see more people this year in an optimistic mood because of the economy.
will you be spending more money 💰 this year, or less or about the same as last year?.
-
-
just fine
But you’ve got to have some fun sometimes too.
Retirement savings - check
emergency fund savings - check
paying off debt on an accelerated plan - check
Spending a little extra every now and again doesn’t hurt 😀 🎁 🎄I missed so many Christmas’s due to the cult. It is fun to buy gifts for people, when you find something you know they are going to love.